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markslurpee:

female privilege is getting to fake an orgasm

(Disclaimer: markslurpee's post was meant to be satirical in response to thisisfemaleprivilege - he does not actually believe what is written above. Thisisfemaleprivilege, however, DOES believe it, and reblogged it with no ironic intent. If you’re angry, please refrain from bothering markslurpee! He’s a good guy. The following rebuttal is directed at those who run thisisfemaleprivilege.)

Now.

A lot of women feel pressured to fake an orgasm rather than discuss the problem, often because they worry about their partner’s self-esteem or are nervous to ask for what they want.

According to a 1994 study, 75% of men and only 29% of women report always having an orgasm with their partner. In fact, for a very long time, it was believed that female orgasm was a myth because it does not serve as much of a direct purpose in the procreational aspects of heterosexual intercourse.

Additionally, women in pornography are often depicted as able to easily achieve vaginal orgasm with very little effort. Not only is this a misrepresentation due to the relatively low number of women who can consistently have vaginal orgasms, it also implies that women will always have an orgasm - period. This is a huge discrepancy from a 2010 survey by the NSSHB, which found that only 64% of women report having had an orgasm during their last sexual encounter. This misrepresentation of reality puts social pressure on women to live up to the enthusiasm of fantasy women.

For women, orgasm is the exception, not the rule, when engaging in sex with a partner. The fact that this dissatisfaction may be easily hidden is no privilege - it is a social nicety women are expected to perform.

[CLICK HERE] to read more about orgasm and privilege!

(via thisisfemaleprivilege)

ACTUALLY:

thisisfemaleprivilege:

Female privilege is not being seen as a pervert for watching porn.

The pornography industry is more ubiquitous than any other media industry, with a collective annual income of around $12 billion - $3 billion per year more than the collective box office revenue for the mainstream film industry. About $4.9 billion of this is revenue from the internet alone. There are also thousands of sites devoted to FREE video hosting for pornography, and millions of men and women (but mostly women) who perform in these films every year.

Most pornography caters to men and features predominantly heterosexual activity. In society, the fact that men in general watch a lot of pornography is an accepted standard, which is why there is relatively much less pornography created with the female interest in mind. In fact, many mainstream pornographic films feature sex acts that demean, degrade, humiliate, or reduce women. However, the women in the films act as though this is the treatment they deserve and in fact desire. These kinds of depictions lead to the increasing acceptance of rape myths.

Many content analyses have been performed to study the content of mainstream pornography and its effects on the attitudes and beliefs of men and women who are exposed to it. Studies show that most mainstream pornography will depict at least one action or behavior that counts as sexual aggression or violence - physical or verbal - meaning that most consumers of pornography are exposed to sexually violent content. In most cases, the aggressor is male and the victim is female. Research suggests that women who view this male-catered content are more likely to be disgusted than aroused, whereas men are more likely to be aroused - especially in cases where it appears as though the victim is enjoying being hurt or degraded.

A quick glance at the first page of popular adult film video hosting site xnxx.com reveals that even on highest-rated, most popular video clips, it is outrageously common to see words like “slut,” “whore,” and “cumslut” used synonymously with “woman” or “girl,” and many of the video titles include suggestions of violence or other unwanted aggression.

Titles such as “Barely Legal” suggest that the pornography industry has very little concern over the reasons why consent and statutory rape laws exist in the first place - to protect younger adolescents from decisions they may not be ready to make - and instead celebrates the removal of these restrictions from still very young boys and girls (but mainly girls).

It is important to note that all of these findings come from the study of mainstream pornography - not just fringe pornography like fetish, BDSM, dom/sub, or any other marginalized category.

With this general yet unspoken acceptance of disproportionately male viewership in the pornography industry - and all of the potentially negative psychological effects that come with it - women have very little stake in what happens in this industry, including how our own gender is portrayed. Very little erotica is crafted for women. All of this stems from the “purity myth” surrounding women - that we are supposed to be virginal and nonsexual creatures except when men desire us; then we are over-sexualized and branded “whores” and “nymphos.” Where male masturbation is considered a fact of life and “just something boys do,” females are taught that masturbating is not ladylike. This results in many women finding it harder to achieve orgasm later in life.

In sum, while it might be true that men are often teased for their pornography consumption - especially among teenage peers - male viewership of pornography is highly more accepted and catered to than female viewership, and this behavior has extremely negative consequences for women in particular.

ACTUALLY:

thisisfemaleprivilege:

Female privilege is the ability to use tears and erotic persuasion as a means to get your way

Again, this is not a “privilege” that women have, but a cheap trick used by very few women that has consequences for all of us.

First of all, there have been studies which have confirmed that female tears may not actually affect a man’s empathy in one way or another. Additionally, it is irresponsible to “cry wolf” and use tears strictly to get out of trouble or to get one’s way, because this lessens the credibility of those who cry out of actual emotional discontent. 

Secondly, using erotic persuasion as a means to get one’s way may propagate rape myths in the same way that a lot of mainstream pornography can. Rape myths include harmful beliefs and attitudes toward women in particular, such as the belief that women enjoy sexual violence, the belief that women are always aroused and looking to be relieved of this arousal, the belief that rape victims were “asking for it,” and many others. Similar to pornography’s effect on the increasing acceptance of rape myths in male populations, when real women trade sexual attention “to get [their] way” or for any other favor, men who see this may begin to believe that women in general will trade sex for anything. This belief can often lead to resentment and the loss of respect for women on the whole.

So don’t do this to get your way. It is not a “privilege” we have, because it comes at a dangerous cost for all. I’ve sort of written a rebuttal like this one before in [THIS] post, but this time I decided to talk more about rape myths.

[For kicks, I would like to point you all in the direction of a Cosmopolitan article that I found to be incredibly stupid. It’s titled - and I quote - “Researchers Have Discovered a Major Boner Shrinker.” As you can see from the article, the important thing that Cosmo took away from this scientific research is that you shouldn’t cry in front of a man, or he might not want to have sex with you. UH OH! Never mind that if you’re crying, you probably aren’t in the mood to have sex anyway. Cosmo has, shockingly, not yet commented on whether pairing tears with erotic persuasion has any affect on men’s empathy, purse strings, or anything else - but we’re all just dying to hear what Cosmo has to say about that.]