ACTUALLY:

thisisfemaleprivilege:

Female privilege is the ability to use tears and erotic persuasion as a means to get your way

Again, this is not a “privilege” that women have, but a cheap trick used by very few women that has consequences for all of us.

First of all, there have been studies which have confirmed that female tears may not actually affect a man’s empathy in one way or another. Additionally, it is irresponsible to “cry wolf” and use tears strictly to get out of trouble or to get one’s way, because this lessens the credibility of those who cry out of actual emotional discontent. 

Secondly, using erotic persuasion as a means to get one’s way may propagate rape myths in the same way that a lot of mainstream pornography can. Rape myths include harmful beliefs and attitudes toward women in particular, such as the belief that women enjoy sexual violence, the belief that women are always aroused and looking to be relieved of this arousal, the belief that rape victims were “asking for it,” and many others. Similar to pornography’s effect on the increasing acceptance of rape myths in male populations, when real women trade sexual attention “to get [their] way” or for any other favor, men who see this may begin to believe that women in general will trade sex for anything. This belief can often lead to resentment and the loss of respect for women on the whole.

So don’t do this to get your way. It is not a “privilege” we have, because it comes at a dangerous cost for all. I’ve sort of written a rebuttal like this one before in [THIS] post, but this time I decided to talk more about rape myths.

[For kicks, I would like to point you all in the direction of a Cosmopolitan article that I found to be incredibly stupid. It’s titled - and I quote - “Researchers Have Discovered a Major Boner Shrinker.” As you can see from the article, the important thing that Cosmo took away from this scientific research is that you shouldn’t cry in front of a man, or he might not want to have sex with you. UH OH! Never mind that if you’re crying, you probably aren’t in the mood to have sex anyway. Cosmo has, shockingly, not yet commented on whether pairing tears with erotic persuasion has any affect on men’s empathy, purse strings, or anything else - but we’re all just dying to hear what Cosmo has to say about that.]

ACTUALLY:

thisisfemaleprivilege:

Female privilege is falsely accusing a man of sexual harassment or even sexual assault, and potentially ruining his entire life and career on a false accusation.

This is not a “privilege” than women have - it is a crime committed by extraordinarily few women.

More often than not, a woman who has been raped will not go to the police or press charges because it has been made extremely difficult for a man to be prosecuted for rape. Some of this difficulty is because society - and the law - has a tendency to blame the victim rather than the perpetrator. When a woman goes to the police, she can expect to be asked what she was wearing and how she was acting at the time of the attack, and much of what she says can be used against her in a court of law, suggesting that she was egging on the perpetrator.

Sometimes, women who have been raped are even penalized for accusing their rapist if the rape event cannot be proven. This happens more frequently than men being falsely accused of rape.

An estimated 97% of actual rapists walk free.

The real privilege here is had by men - the ability to rape someone and walk free 97% of the time seriously outweighs the infrequent false accusation by a woman.

ACTUALLY:

thisisfemaleprivilege:

Female privilege is people allowing you to be weak, allowing you to be a survivor and allowing you to talk about your trauma and not be ridiculed (as much) even though 1 in 3 men will be sexually assaulted in their lifetime.

1 in 6 women has been the victim of a rape or intended rape, whereas 1 in 33 men has been the victim of a rape or attempted rape. 9 in 10 rape victims are female. Presumably, these statistics are also proportional for cases of sexual harassment. People often say, “Yeah, but what about prison rape?” Females are not exempt from prison rape, and there is a similar prevalence of females being raped with phallus-like objects in prison as well.

Men may be taught to hide their trauma, but there is also an extremely high tendency of society to blame the female victim rather than console her. Often, people will take into account what she was wearing, whether or not she was drunk, and how promiscuous she was at the time of the rape to factor in “her fault.” Rape is never the victim’s fault. Ever. And women are ridiculed all the time for telling the truth about what has happened to them, which is why so many rapes go unreported.

[Statistics from this accredited source.]